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Questions and responses submitted by local youth and couselors. You are not alone.

Tips for Suicidal Thoughts

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School, Suicide | One Comment
I have been dealing with depression for a very long time. I’ve been bullied by groups and individuals since I knew what bullying was. The bullying has mostly stopped this year, but the drama within my friend group is getting to the point where it’s kind of bullying, too. I have self-harmed and constantly have thoughts of self-harm, but I have managed to stay clean for a while, so that isn’t my largest concern at the moment.
I scare myself the amount I think about suicide. I tell myself that I would never commit suicide because of the effect it would leave on the people I care about, but I don’t always know if that’s true. I often think about how I would go through with it, but never when, where, or why.
I also deal with severe ADD/ADHD and bad social anxiety and panic attacks. I can never focus on my assignments or homework. I get nervous when in groups and have very bad panic attacks.¬†Any tips would be so very greatly appreciated. Thank you so much. ūüôā

How Do I Get Help for a Friend?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

I have a friend who is going through a really tough time at home. While I want to listen to her and support her, it can be too much for me sometimes. I’m the only person she really tells this stuff to, and she has told me multiple times that I’m the only person keeping her sane and alive. What should I do? Should I advise her to see a therapist, and if so, how could I do it without her thinking I don’t want to listen to her?

Growing Apart From a Friend

Posted by | Relationships, School | One Comment

I’ve recently realized that I don’t particularly like my friend.¬† She’s not a bad person, but I’ve started to realize that we don’t share a ton of things in common, she doesn’t seem to understand me, and she’s kind of annoying, like if I knock into her on accident, she’ll push me back hard, or she’ll just step on my feet or kick me.¬† I’ve told her to stop and that has worked but sometimes it still happens every now and then and it annoys me.¬† Also sometimes we just stare at each other awkwardly not knowing what to say as I desperately¬† try to think of a topic to talk about.¬† What I really want it to have a group of friends to hang out with, and although I have other friends, it doesn’t solve the problem.¬† We became friends shortly after I moved, mainly out of necessity, since I had nobody so I just clung on to whoever seemed friendly.¬† Another problem is that it’s the middle of the school year so it’s hard to make new friends.¬† How do I resolve my problem?¬† Should I just grit my teeth and wait it out until next year to make new friends?¬† Should I try to introduce my friend to some of my interests or take up some of hers?

Does He Still Like Me?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

Well, there is this guy I like, and we started texting around the beginning of the school year, and eventually he told me he liked me and I told him I liked him.¬† So later we decided we should hang out after school with a few friends, but the entire time it was kind of just me and my friend blabbering on and on about nothing important.¬† ¬†Ever since then he’s hardly talked to me, and what I want to know is if he still likes me, or if he doesn’t anymore.¬† I’m just getting really stressed out about and I don’t know why, and I really like this guy so I’m just a little disappointed and confused.

Finding a New Friend Group

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

I recently left my old friend group because there was too much drama and backstabbing happening. This was during the summer so it didn’t matter a lot because it wasn’t happening in school. On the first day of school this year I bumped into someone I was friends with when we were younger. I asked if I could sit with her and her friends and they let me. They didn’t really talk to me but I was fine because I still had someone to sit with. Things have been getting worse though. They always leave me out of all their activities. When I sit with them at lunch they whisper about things together, ignoring me completely. When I ask what they are talking about they just give me a look that says how annoyed they are that I asked. I do have a bunch of great individual friends but they all have their own friend groups with people that don’t know me, and people that I have tried to hang out with and have acted “too cool for me.” I just want to find a friend group with people that will accept me for who I am and actually pay attention to me.

Body Confidence During the Holidays

Posted by | Family, Feelings | One Comment

Today is thanksgiving and I was really worried about it because I’ve had on and off eating disorders since around 6th grade. Such a big meal with everyone watching me was really scary and as soon as i got a little bit of food in my mouth I wanted to throw up. I spent the rest of today feeling like I wasnt good enough for anything or anyone. I didnt throw up because I physically couldnt make myself, like, i was trying to but it didnt work. Im too scared to talk to a friend because theyll just think Im annoying or that I want attention.¬† I’ve always been very very uncomfortable with my body, especially exercising, and i get really embarassed, so i feel a lot better if i throw up my food (it feels like progress) even though i know it isnt healthy. I am by no means skinny, I have a really large stomach that I always cover up and my family always tells me i need to lose weight or makes comments about my size. How do I feel better about my body, be more comfortable exercising around other people, and not regret eating? I know I have a lot to be thankful for, and I know I’m going to be okay, i just need a little help. Thanks to all the counselors who put in the time for this, its really amazing what you guys do and not enough people know about this site! Happy Thanksgiving!!!

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