Real Stories.

Questions and responses submitted by local youth and couselors. You are not alone.

Abdominal Pain

Posted by | Ask a Doctor, Medical | One Comment

Last night I went to bed in a ton of pain on my lower left abdominal area and woke up with it still hurting fairly bad but still tolerable. I tried to make a heat compress and put it on there and it did relieve some pain but it still felt like someone was stabbing me. I thought it might be cramps, but I have PCOS and my periods come every 4-5 months and I had it about 3 weeks ago. Is there anything I can do to stop some of the pain?

Confidence After an Injury

Posted by | Ask a Doctor, Medical | One Comment

Hi! I am a gymnast and have dealt with past injuries. Recently I had an injury that didn’t end up serious, but I was still concerned. My coach didn’t take me completely serious when I was explaining the extent of what I felt happen and how scared I was of what happened.  I now am having mental blocks on vault and I also struggle with mental blocks on other events that are difficult for me to get over. They are also partially caused by previous injuries and I am tired of dealing with them on a daily basis. I feel like I have so much more potential without these mental blocks that I would love to achieve. I was wondering if you have any advice about overcoming mental blocks in sports or how to overcome injuries or how to talk to coaches in a more efficient way. Keep in mind that I am a level 8/9 gymnast so the skills I am doing are pretty advanced and so it could be understandable why I have some fear. Thanks for your consideration.

Feeling Worse – How to Get Help

Posted by | Family, Feelings, Relationships, Suicide | One Comment

I’ve emailed here many, many times. I am now on anti-depressants that are supposed to, duh, help with depression but also my anxiety. The issue is that I am still feeling like crap. If anything I feel worse. I’ve been thinking of suicide so much; nearly every day, sometimes multiple times in a day. Same with cutting. I haven’t cut for almost a week but I don’t know how long that will hold. I’ve also recently realized I have anorexia. I always stop myself from eating because I’m so fat. I just feel like I can’t do it anymore.

My best friend has attempted suicide twice recently and I’m so scared of losing her. I know that if she attempts again she will probably succeed and if she does, I’m going too. I can’t be without her. My entire family treats me like crap. My mom and dad always yell at me for everything I do. Anything I’m doing, they can always find something wrong with it. My brothers both make me want to kill myself. They point out all of my flaws.

I only have a few friends I can really depend on. The problem with always being the one my friends come to with problems, though, is that they’re so negative and even when I’m trying to pull myself out of the black hole I’m in their problems suck me back down because I feel like I have to be there for them and I have to help them somehow.
I have a therapist and she’s very nice but I feel like with how well I know her I can’t really open up to her as easily. Even though it should be easier to open up to someone you know, it feels easier for me to open up to a complete stranger and know they won’t tell anyone.

Tips for Suicidal Thoughts

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School, Suicide | One Comment
I have been dealing with depression for a very long time. I’ve been bullied by groups and individuals since I knew what bullying was. The bullying has mostly stopped this year, but the drama within my friend group is getting to the point where it’s kind of bullying, too. I have self-harmed and constantly have thoughts of self-harm, but I have managed to stay clean for a while, so that isn’t my largest concern at the moment.
I scare myself the amount I think about suicide. I tell myself that I would never commit suicide because of the effect it would leave on the people I care about, but I don’t always know if that’s true. I often think about how I would go through with it, but never when, where, or why.
I also deal with severe ADD/ADHD and bad social anxiety and panic attacks. I can never focus on my assignments or homework. I get nervous when in groups and have very bad panic attacks. Any tips would be so very greatly appreciated. Thank you so much. 🙂

How Do I Get Help for a Friend?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

I have a friend who is going through a really tough time at home. While I want to listen to her and support her, it can be too much for me sometimes. I’m the only person she really tells this stuff to, and she has told me multiple times that I’m the only person keeping her sane and alive. What should I do? Should I advise her to see a therapist, and if so, how could I do it without her thinking I don’t want to listen to her?

Growing Apart From a Friend

Posted by | Relationships, School | One Comment

I’ve recently realized that I don’t particularly like my friend.  She’s not a bad person, but I’ve started to realize that we don’t share a ton of things in common, she doesn’t seem to understand me, and she’s kind of annoying, like if I knock into her on accident, she’ll push me back hard, or she’ll just step on my feet or kick me.  I’ve told her to stop and that has worked but sometimes it still happens every now and then and it annoys me.  Also sometimes we just stare at each other awkwardly not knowing what to say as I desperately  try to think of a topic to talk about.  What I really want it to have a group of friends to hang out with, and although I have other friends, it doesn’t solve the problem.  We became friends shortly after I moved, mainly out of necessity, since I had nobody so I just clung on to whoever seemed friendly.  Another problem is that it’s the middle of the school year so it’s hard to make new friends.  How do I resolve my problem?  Should I just grit my teeth and wait it out until next year to make new friends?  Should I try to introduce my friend to some of my interests or take up some of hers?

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