Tips for Suicidal Thoughts

I have been dealing with depression for a very long time. I’ve been bullied by groups and individuals since I knew what bullying was. The bullying has mostly stopped this year, but the drama within my friend group is getting to the point where it’s kind of bullying, too. I have self-harmed and constantly have thoughts of self-harm, but I have managed to stay clean for a while, so that isn’t my largest concern at the moment.
I scare myself the amount I think about suicide. I tell myself that I would never commit suicide because of the effect it would leave on the people I care about, but I don’t always know if that’s true. I often think about how I would go through with it, but never when, where, or why.
I also deal with severe ADD/ADHD and bad social anxiety and panic attacks. I can never focus on my assignments or homework. I get nervous when in groups and have very bad panic attacks. Any tips would be so very greatly appreciated. Thank you so much. 🙂

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  • BYS Therapist says:

    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. From what you’ve said, it sounds like you’ve been working on all these challenges for a long time on your own, and doing your best to not let it get worse.

    Let’s start with the most serious issue. You say that you sometimes think about suicide, and that’s a major safety concern. When you start thinking about it, the most important thing you can do is talk about it and get help.

    We strongly recommend that you talk with a trusted adult – it might be your parents, or another person, such as a school counselor, nurse, coach, pastor, a friend’s parent, etc. Ask them to help you get some professional help so that you can address this. If you are local to our office (on Bainbridge Island, WA), then you (or an adult who is helping you) can make an appointment with us through, or find a local therapist at which is a web registry of local clinicians. Or, you can ask your doctor or the local hospital for recommendations of clinicians in your area.

    The therapist can also then work with you on issues like bullying, self harm, ADD, and anxiety too. But when suicidal thoughts get in the way, it’s hard to work on other issues, and the first goal is to keep you physically safe.

    Another information that’s important to have is that there are people you can talk to 24 hours, 7 days a week, when you feel stuck. Here are three numbers that I think would be a good idea to program into your phone, just in case:

    Suicide Prevention Lifeline – a national hotline for suicide prevention. Their website will also have information on how to chat/text with them.
    1-800-273 TALK (8255)

    Your Life Your Voice – a crisis support service specifically for teens, and they also offer crisis phone calls and texts.

    Crisis Text Line – a crisis line that you text instead of call.
    Text HOME to 741-741

    I think you took an important first step by reaching out and asking us for some advice. I really encourage you to consider asking for more professional help, so that you don’t have to tackle these challenges alone; professional therapists are trained to work and help people who struggle with challenges like yours, because it’s not easy to solve these challenges on your own. I hope you take another step forward to keep making your situation better.

    Take care,

    BYS Therapist

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