Scared I Will Lose Him

Posted by | August 07, 2014 | Relationships | One Comment

I have been together for 4 months now. He recently started a job where it causes him to start at 1 in the afternoon & get off at midnight. Lately I have been really upset because I haven’t been talking to him as much & I really miss him. I really care about him & I am so scared that I am going to lose him. I have said it so many times & all he says is that it won’t happen because he loves me too much for that to happen. But the thought of it scares me. Any advice will work for me I am at a loss. He doesn’t treat me bad at all he is the best person that has ever came in to my life. He has done so much for me & I would be dumb to break up with him all because I am upset with not talking to him.

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  • BYS Counselor says:

    We are glad that you reached out today. It has to be really tough when you are used to talking to your boyfriend, and his job prevents that from happening as much. We would also suggest that you look at the situation from his perspective. He needs the job and he has to be very torn between his job and his relationship. However, as you grow older you will have other things in your life (college, work, other friends) that will require your attention as much or almost as much as your relationship does.

    Try to look at your relationship from a different perspective. While you may not have as much time together, try to make the time you do have together more meaningful. Also, plan special times on the days that he has off. You can structure your time when he is working, by working yourself (if you are not already working), volunteer, or do some activity that you enjoy and/or will help prepare you for the future.

    If you would like to talk more about this issue, you can chat or text with one of our counselors.

    Take care.
    BYS Counselor

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