Get The Worst Feeling

Posted by | January 04, 2014 | Bullying | One Comment

I’ve been sexually harassed all though my life, and I haven’t told anyone because I feel they would think I’m lying because it happened so much. I first got molested by my grandfather when I was younger once. Then the sexual harassment started to happen when I reached high school by a football player. See I had move to a new school and had no one there I knew.

I would have told someone about the football player if he did make threats like punching my desk and stuff like that. Then I had a class with him again, but he didn’t get as physical with me, but he was still verbal and so was his friends also football players.

I’m not so bothered by it anymore, but when I do think about it I get the worst feeling in my heart and stomach. It would be great to get you feed back.

One Comment

  • admin says:

    We’re so glad you e-mailed us this morning. We are so sorry to hear that you were hurt when you were younger, and that now you’re being harassed and bullied. We want you to know that we believe you, and also that it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything to cause either situation and you don’t deserve to be treated this way.

    Bullying is a huge problem in schools today, and unfortunately, there’s no one magic answer to stop someone from bullying you. You can’t change someone else’s behavior but there are several strategies you can use to change the way you respond to the bullying and defuse the situation.

    First and foremost, you need to tell an adult, such as a parent, teacher or school counselor. Many schools have a zero tolerance for bullying and sexual harassment, and they need to be aware there is a problem in order to provide you with a safe learning environment. Please tell a trusted adult soon.

    It sounds like this guy is particularly threatening if he is punching your desk and egging his friends on to harass you also. Please be careful of your own safety. Walk to classes with a friend or classmate. If possible, avoid being in the same place with him.

    Perhaps you can tell your school counselor that, for your safety, either you or your harasser need to be transferred to a different class.

    Remember that bullies enjoy knowing that they’re scaring their target. Even if you feel scared, try to act like he’s not bothering you at all. If you can do that over time, he will lose the thrill of trying to intimidate you and maybe he will back off.

    It must be awful walking around with a terrible feeling in your stomach and heart. Please take care of yourself. Surround yourself with friends, see a movie or go to the mall, have a good laugh, and generally be kind to yourself. During the tough times, maybe you could try writing your feelings in a journal.

    You could also try talking to your school counselor about how you feel, or even ask your parents if they could set up an appointment with a therapist.

    Reach out for support to friends and family, as well as the counselors at the Boys Town National Hotline. You can call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-448-3000.

    Take care and stay safe,

    Brenda, Counselor

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