Depression and Friendships

Hi,
I’ve been dealing with depression for 3 years and I had found a way around it but lately I couldn’t because I don’t fit in anymore. I stand out like that girl who can’t walk or talk. I don’t like labels.  I’ve been trying to think positive thoughts but I don’t have friends like I used to… people are moving their separate ways.

I may be graduating but I really want these friendships to last. I get picked on in some of my classes and I get these texts and snapchats that says go back home, you don’t belong here, you are just a stupid girl, and people making fun of me. When will it stop?  when will I ever feel safe at school again? Will I make it to graduation?

-18 yo teen

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  • BYS Therapist says:

    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. Sounds like you are having a rough time there with friends and feeling down.

    When friendships start to change and you feel like you don’t fit in, that can leave you feeling pretty lonely. And it seems like you are also struggling with people giving you a hard time through texts and snapchat messages, making you feel worse about your situation.

    Sometimes, these moments pass and friendships improve again… in the mean time, you may find new connections by getting involved in new activities that you enjoy, or by talking with people in your current class or groups that you usually don’t talk to everyday. It can be a slow process, so try to be patient with yourself.

    Another thing you might consider doing is talking to your school counselor about the texting and snapchat messages. It’s hard to give you more specific advice about this without knowing all the details, but it sounds like you feel unwelcome and unsafe at school because of the messages. Getting the school counselor involved may be an important step in addressing the cyber bullying.

    If you have a therapist that has helped you in the past with your depression, the therapist may be able to help you again with depression, or think of ways to solve the text messaging problem too.

    If you want someone to talk to right away when you feel lonely and stuck, you might consider calling a 24-hour hotline. The one we often recommend to teens and young adults is hosted by yourlifeyourvoice.org, and they have a hotline 1-800-448-3000 that are staffed by counselors 24 hours a day. When you are feeling super lonely, sometimes talking about it with another person can really help you get through the moment.

    Hang in there and take care of yourself,

    BYS Counselor

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