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Growing Apart From a Friend

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I’ve recently realized that I don’t particularly like my friend.  She’s not a bad person, but I’ve started to realize that we don’t share a ton of things in common, she doesn’t seem to understand me, and she’s kind of annoying, like if I knock into her on accident, she’ll push me back hard, or she’ll just step on my feet or kick me.  I’ve told her to stop and that has worked but sometimes it still happens every now and then and it annoys me.  Also sometimes we just stare at each other awkwardly not knowing what to say as I desperately  try to think of a topic to talk about.  What I really want it to have a group of friends to hang out with, and although I have other friends, it doesn’t solve the problem.  We became friends shortly after I moved, mainly out of necessity, since I had nobody so I just clung on to whoever seemed friendly.  Another problem is that it’s the middle of the school year so it’s hard to make new friends.  How do I resolve my problem?  Should I just grit my teeth and wait it out until next year to make new friends?  Should I try to introduce my friend to some of my interests or take up some of hers?

Finding a New Friend Group

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

I recently left my old friend group because there was too much drama and backstabbing happening. This was during the summer so it didn’t matter a lot because it wasn’t happening in school. On the first day of school this year I bumped into someone I was friends with when we were younger. I asked if I could sit with her and her friends and they let me. They didn’t really talk to me but I was fine because I still had someone to sit with. Things have been getting worse though. They always leave me out of all their activities. When I sit with them at lunch they whisper about things together, ignoring me completely. When I ask what they are talking about they just give me a look that says how annoyed they are that I asked. I do have a bunch of great individual friends but they all have their own friend groups with people that don’t know me, and people that I have tried to hang out with and have acted “too cool for me.” I just want to find a friend group with people that will accept me for who I am and actually pay attention to me.

Depression and Friendships

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

Hi,
I’ve been dealing with depression for 3 years and I had found a way around it but lately I couldn’t because I don’t fit in anymore. I stand out like that girl who can’t walk or talk. I don’t like labels.  I’ve been trying to think positive thoughts but I don’t have friends like I used to… people are moving their separate ways.

I may be graduating but I really want these friendships to last. I get picked on in some of my classes and I get these texts and snapchats that says go back home, you don’t belong here, you are just a stupid girl, and people making fun of me. When will it stop?  when will I ever feel safe at school again? Will I make it to graduation?

-18 yo teen

A New Perspective on School

Posted by | Family, Feelings, School, Uncategorized | One Comment
Recently, we had someone share this perspective with us:

“As a mother and grandmother I feel it is unfortunate to push college starting in the Junior year of high school.  Students in other countries often take a “GAP YEAR”.  My oldest daughter did not want to attend a local university, and instead she worked a year, then went to a university overseas, and returned later to finish at UW.  My other daughter went to a small liberal arts college in CA, then later told me she never felt comfortable  there until her senior year.  I went to university at 18 yrs but did not really know why I was there and quit after two years.  Later, after having more life experience, I went to another university, and then finally graduated from the University of Washington. I remember being disappointed in many classes.  i.e. a young man in my Oceanography class when evaluating the class wrote “This class is so poorly taught even the nuns went to sleep.”  In American History class I used to think the professor was perhaps blind as he lectured to a crack in the back wall. In fact, I only remember the names of a few teachers who were dynamic. On the other hand, I am grateful for all life-long learning experiences.

Just loosen up and let students grow up.”

Grades Are Going Down

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​My parents recently went through a divorce and people at school started calling me names and my grades have been going down…WAY DOWN I used to be all A’s and now I have C’s and D’s. I have found myself always sad and hiding behind my fake smile. Any tips? Please reply soon! ​

No Motivation To Do Schoolwork

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Hello, This semester has been really tough, to a point where I have absolutely no motivation to do any schoolwork. I’m homeschooled, so everything is a little more challenging (which is great really… usually). I’ve been homeschooled since the 1st grade and have never had problems with school. Now I’m in 9th, including doing 10th grade math and 11th grade literature. My mind feels like its gone on vacation as I can never seem to focus. Staying caught up is a struggle, and I find myself getting distracted by little things and I hate it, I feel like my mind has failed me or something. What can I do to correct this? I don’t know how I’ll survive next school year if my issue persists. I’ve talked to my parents about it many times, and all they tell me is “We all have to do things we don’t want to do” I know this… So why can’t I just get my butt in gear and do my work? Thanks

Afraid I’ll Lose My Scholarship

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Ok this is a school thing. Short version is I haven’t been doing well grade-wise. It’s my first year of college and grades were never a problem before but now they are, and it’s really killing my self-worth. All the sites like this one say stuff like “you’re human, you can make mistakes, etc. etc.” but is it a mistake if I knew what would happen? I never do as much as I should and the classes just get harder and harder. Right now it looks like I’ve screwed everything up too bad to fix. I’m afraid I’ll lose my scholarships and then everything will be ruined forever.

Addicted To My Computer

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Hello,

I wish if you could help me with it.

I think I’m addicted to my phone and the computer.

I’m not able to study properly. I’ve just passed school and it took me a lot of struggle at the eleventh hour to get above average grades. I didn’t study the entire year. Instead, spent time in useless things I knew wouldn’t pay me back. I’d spent more than 2K hours on all this the whole year and no more than 20 hours on academics. And I don’t know exactly how much time was lost before that.

What I do is, just as the operating system seems to get a little older, I re-install everything and setup the entire system, again and again, and it seems there is no end to it. I don’t like clutter. I do the same with other things too. It’s like, when I want to sit for study, something or the other occupies my thought and I then accomplish it first and this goes on and I end up procrastinating my study sessions.

Maybe I’ve an OCD and I couldn’t help myself anymore. I believe that my ability to sit and study even for an hour has vanished into nothingness. I think of studying when all the things that seek my attention are sorted out, and that never happens. And even at night I spend all my active hours on my PC. My parents think I study at night and they sleep.

So many topics have to be covered for other examinations and I’m just keeping everything to the end. Just a few days left for the next big exam. Other fellows are already done with more than half of the course. All they have to do is revise at the last day, and here I would be struggling to remember things for the first time and panicking. It still could be prevented. I’ve a week left!

Maybe I fear that I wouldn’t be able to complete it and I lack time, I don’t know. My competitors are ahead of me and maybe that’s why I’m not able to do it well.

It’s like I’m stuck in a chain of not spending time on academics and procrastination. And I’m not able to brake out of that chain of processes!

What do I do?

Thanks

Unsure About The Future

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I am a senior and thinking a lot about the future, but I feel really floaty and unsure or everything. It seems like I’m just drifting around aimlessly without anything to hold on to, and the things that I used to be really passionate about have become meaningless and stale to me. I don’t know what I want to do in my life and I don’t know who I am (I feel super disconnected from myself). What can I do to get back in touch with who I am and to regain purpose in my life again? Thank you so much!

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