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Feeling Worse – How to Get Help

Posted by | Family, Feelings, Relationships, Suicide | One Comment

I’ve emailed here many, many times. I am now on anti-depressants that are supposed to, duh, help with depression but also my anxiety. The issue is that I am still feeling like crap. If anything I feel worse. I’ve been thinking of suicide so much; nearly every day, sometimes multiple times in a day. Same with cutting. I haven’t cut for almost a week but I don’t know how long that will hold. I’ve also recently realized I have anorexia. I always stop myself from eating because I’m so fat. I just feel like I can’t do it anymore.

My best friend has attempted suicide twice recently and I’m so scared of losing her. I know that if she attempts again she will probably succeed and if she does, I’m going too. I can’t be without her. My entire family treats me like crap. My mom and dad always yell at me for everything I do. Anything I’m doing, they can always find something wrong with it. My brothers both make me want to kill myself. They point out all of my flaws.

I only have a few friends I can really depend on. The problem with always being the one my friends come to with problems, though, is that they’re so negative and even when I’m trying to pull myself out of the black hole I’m in their problems suck me back down because I feel like I have to be there for them and I have to help them somehow.
I have a therapist and she’s very nice but I feel like with how well I know her I can’t really open up to her as easily. Even though it should be easier to open up to someone you know, it feels easier for me to open up to a complete stranger and know they won’t tell anyone.

Tips for Suicidal Thoughts

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School, Suicide | One Comment
I have been dealing with depression for a very long time. I’ve been bullied by groups and individuals since I knew what bullying was. The bullying has mostly stopped this year, but the drama within my friend group is getting to the point where it’s kind of bullying, too. I have self-harmed and constantly have thoughts of self-harm, but I have managed to stay clean for a while, so that isn’t my largest concern at the moment.
I scare myself the amount I think about suicide. I tell myself that I would never commit suicide because of the effect it would leave on the people I care about, but I don’t always know if that’s true. I often think about how I would go through with it, but never when, where, or why.
I also deal with severe ADD/ADHD and bad social anxiety and panic attacks. I can never focus on my assignments or homework. I get nervous when in groups and have very bad panic attacks.¬†Any tips would be so very greatly appreciated. Thank you so much. ūüôā

How Do I Get Help for a Friend?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

I have a friend who is going through a really tough time at home. While I want to listen to her and support her, it can be too much for me sometimes. I’m the only person she really tells this stuff to, and she has told me multiple times that I’m the only person keeping her sane and alive. What should I do? Should I advise her to see a therapist, and if so, how could I do it without her thinking I don’t want to listen to her?

Growing Apart From a Friend

Posted by | Relationships, School | One Comment

I’ve recently realized that I don’t particularly like my friend.¬† She’s not a bad person, but I’ve started to realize that we don’t share a ton of things in common, she doesn’t seem to understand me, and she’s kind of annoying, like if I knock into her on accident, she’ll push me back hard, or she’ll just step on my feet or kick me.¬† I’ve told her to stop and that has worked but sometimes it still happens every now and then and it annoys me.¬† Also sometimes we just stare at each other awkwardly not knowing what to say as I desperately¬† try to think of a topic to talk about.¬† What I really want it to have a group of friends to hang out with, and although I have other friends, it doesn’t solve the problem.¬† We became friends shortly after I moved, mainly out of necessity, since I had nobody so I just clung on to whoever seemed friendly.¬† Another problem is that it’s the middle of the school year so it’s hard to make new friends.¬† How do I resolve my problem?¬† Should I just grit my teeth and wait it out until next year to make new friends?¬† Should I try to introduce my friend to some of my interests or take up some of hers?

Does He Still Like Me?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

Well, there is this guy I like, and we started texting around the beginning of the school year, and eventually he told me he liked me and I told him I liked him.¬† So later we decided we should hang out after school with a few friends, but the entire time it was kind of just me and my friend blabbering on and on about nothing important.¬† ¬†Ever since then he’s hardly talked to me, and what I want to know is if he still likes me, or if he doesn’t anymore.¬† I’m just getting really stressed out about and I don’t know why, and I really like this guy so I’m just a little disappointed and confused.

Finding a New Friend Group

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

I recently left my old friend group because there was too much drama and backstabbing happening. This was during the summer so it didn’t matter a lot because it wasn’t happening in school. On the first day of school this year I bumped into someone I was friends with when we were younger. I asked if I could sit with her and her friends and they let me. They didn’t really talk to me but I was fine because I still had someone to sit with. Things have been getting worse though. They always leave me out of all their activities. When I sit with them at lunch they whisper about things together, ignoring me completely. When I ask what they are talking about they just give me a look that says how annoyed they are that I asked. I do have a bunch of great individual friends but they all have their own friend groups with people that don’t know me, and people that I have tried to hang out with and have acted “too cool for me.” I just want to find a friend group with people that will accept me for who I am and actually pay attention to me.

Depression and Friendships

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

Hi,
I’ve been dealing with depression for 3 years and I had found a way around it but lately I couldn’t because I don’t fit in anymore. I stand out like that girl who can’t walk or talk. I don’t like labels.¬† I’ve been trying to think positive thoughts but I don’t have friends like I used to… people are moving their separate ways.

I may be graduating but I really want these friendships to last. I get picked on in some of my classes and I get these texts and snapchats that says go back home, you don’t belong here, you are just a stupid girl, and people making fun of me. When will it stop?¬† when will I ever feel safe at school again? Will I make it to graduation?

-18 yo teen

Struggling to Make Friends

Posted by | Family, Relationships, Uncategorized | One Comment

I’ve been struggling to make friends. I met this one friend that I care about, but my parents don’t want me to talk to him. I hate feeling stuck between a guy I like and my family. My whole life, people who I thought were my friends weren’t, and I need some help. I’ve had a bad past and need someone to call my friend.

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