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Tips for Suicidal Thoughts

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School, Suicide | One Comment
I have been dealing with depression for a very long time. I’ve been bullied by groups and individuals since I knew what bullying was. The bullying has mostly stopped this year, but the drama within my friend group is getting to the point where it’s kind of bullying, too. I have self-harmed and constantly have thoughts of self-harm, but I have managed to stay clean for a while, so that isn’t my largest concern at the moment.
I scare myself the amount I think about suicide. I tell myself that I would never commit suicide because of the effect it would leave on the people I care about, but I don’t always know if that’s true. I often think about how I would go through with it, but never when, where, or why.
I also deal with severe ADD/ADHD and bad social anxiety and panic attacks. I can never focus on my assignments or homework. I get nervous when in groups and have very bad panic attacks.¬†Any tips would be so very greatly appreciated. Thank you so much. ūüôā

How Do I Get Help for a Friend?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

I have a friend who is going through a really tough time at home. While I want to listen to her and support her, it can be too much for me sometimes. I’m the only person she really tells this stuff to, and she has told me multiple times that I’m the only person keeping her sane and alive. What should I do? Should I advise her to see a therapist, and if so, how could I do it without her thinking I don’t want to listen to her?

Does He Still Like Me?

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships | One Comment

Well, there is this guy I like, and we started texting around the beginning of the school year, and eventually he told me he liked me and I told him I liked him.¬† So later we decided we should hang out after school with a few friends, but the entire time it was kind of just me and my friend blabbering on and on about nothing important.¬† ¬†Ever since then he’s hardly talked to me, and what I want to know is if he still likes me, or if he doesn’t anymore.¬† I’m just getting really stressed out about and I don’t know why, and I really like this guy so I’m just a little disappointed and confused.

Finding a New Friend Group

Posted by | Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

I recently left my old friend group because there was too much drama and backstabbing happening. This was during the summer so it didn’t matter a lot because it wasn’t happening in school. On the first day of school this year I bumped into someone I was friends with when we were younger. I asked if I could sit with her and her friends and they let me. They didn’t really talk to me but I was fine because I still had someone to sit with. Things have been getting worse though. They always leave me out of all their activities. When I sit with them at lunch they whisper about things together, ignoring me completely. When I ask what they are talking about they just give me a look that says how annoyed they are that I asked. I do have a bunch of great individual friends but they all have their own friend groups with people that don’t know me, and people that I have tried to hang out with and have acted “too cool for me.” I just want to find a friend group with people that will accept me for who I am and actually pay attention to me.

Body Confidence During the Holidays

Posted by | Family, Feelings | One Comment

Today is thanksgiving and I was really worried about it because I’ve had on and off eating disorders since around 6th grade. Such a big meal with everyone watching me was really scary and as soon as i got a little bit of food in my mouth I wanted to throw up. I spent the rest of today feeling like I wasnt good enough for anything or anyone. I didnt throw up because I physically couldnt make myself, like, i was trying to but it didnt work. Im too scared to talk to a friend because theyll just think Im annoying or that I want attention.¬† I’ve always been very very uncomfortable with my body, especially exercising, and i get really embarassed, so i feel a lot better if i throw up my food (it feels like progress) even though i know it isnt healthy. I am by no means skinny, I have a really large stomach that I always cover up and my family always tells me i need to lose weight or makes comments about my size. How do I feel better about my body, be more comfortable exercising around other people, and not regret eating? I know I have a lot to be thankful for, and I know I’m going to be okay, i just need a little help. Thanks to all the counselors who put in the time for this, its really amazing what you guys do and not enough people know about this site! Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Help with Social Anxiety!

Posted by | Feelings | One Comment

Hello.
I am 99% sure that I have social anxiety disorder. I haven’t been professionally diagnosed, but I have done extensive research because I don’t want to get this wrong. I’ve talked to my mom about this and she agrees. so here’s my question: I want to get help, because I’ve heard that social anxiety is totally curable, but I don’t know where to start. also, I’m looking for tips as to how I can better deal with this disorder?

Depression and Friendships

Posted by | Bullying, Feelings, Relationships, School | One Comment

Hi,
I’ve been dealing with depression for 3 years and I had found a way around it but lately I couldn’t because I don’t fit in anymore. I stand out like that girl who can’t walk or talk. I don’t like labels.¬† I’ve been trying to think positive thoughts but I don’t have friends like I used to… people are moving their separate ways.

I may be graduating but I really want these friendships to last. I get picked on in some of my classes and I get these texts and snapchats that says go back home, you don’t belong here, you are just a stupid girl, and people making fun of me. When will it stop?¬† when will I ever feel safe at school again? Will I make it to graduation?

-18 yo teen

A New Perspective on School

Posted by | Family, Feelings, School, Uncategorized | One Comment
Recently, we had someone share this perspective with us:

“As a mother and grandmother I feel it is unfortunate to push college starting in the Junior year of high school.¬† Students in other countries often take a “GAP YEAR”.¬† My oldest daughter did not want to attend a local university, and instead she worked a year, then went to a university overseas, and returned later to¬†finish at UW.¬† My other daughter went to a small liberal arts college in CA, then later told me she never felt comfortable¬† there until her senior year.¬† I went to university at 18 yrs but did not really know why I was there and quit after two years.¬† Later, after having more life experience, I went to another university, and then finally graduated from the University of Washington. I remember being disappointed in many classes. ¬†i.e. a young man in my Oceanography class when evaluating the class wrote “This class is so poorly taught even the nuns went to sleep.”¬† In American History class I used to think the professor was perhaps blind as he lectured to a crack in the back wall. In fact, I only remember the names of a few teachers who were dynamic. On the other hand, I am grateful for all life-long learning experiences.

Just loosen up and let students grow up.”

Dealing with Sleep Paralysis

Posted by | Feelings, Medical | One Comment

Hello,

I’ve struggled with sleep paralysis (SP) for a long time. It happens frequently and multiple times a night. Most of my hallucinations involve being taken advantage of by an unknown figure or ripped apart by many unknowns figures. (They’re also blue.) Because if these images SP has become very unpleasent. I become scared of going to bed, but I know I need to sleep for my health. I was wondering if there were any treatments that would help prevent, stop, lessen the amount of times it happens, stop the hallucinations, etc?

Plus, when I enter an episode my heart beat becomes very, very rapid and my breathing stops. I’ve read that SP is physically harmless but when these things happen I fear death.

Please help, this battle is getting old.
Any advice would help.

Thank you.

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