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2014 August

No Motivation To Do Schoolwork

Posted by | School | One Comment

Hello, This semester has been really tough, to a point where I have absolutely no motivation to do any schoolwork. I’m homeschooled, so everything is a little more challenging (which is great really… usually). I’ve been homeschooled since the 1st grade and have never had problems with school. Now I’m in 9th, including doing 10th grade math and 11th grade literature. My mind feels like its gone on vacation as I can never seem to focus. Staying caught up is a struggle, and I find myself getting distracted by little things and I hate it, I feel like my mind has failed me or something. What can I do to correct this? I don’t know how I’ll survive next school year if my issue persists. I’ve talked to my parents about it many times, and all they tell me is “We all have to do things we don’t want to do” I know this… So why can’t I just get my butt in gear and do my work? Thanks

I Don’t Fit In, I Don’t Drink

Posted by | Bullying, Drugs & Alcohol | One Comment

Hi. I just need help dealing with a current situation at school. I used to be super close with 4 other girls in my class but over the last year they have been going to party’s and getting drunk and my parents don’t allow me to go to party’s and I don’t feel comfortable drinking. But they have totally cut me off from their lives and bully me verbally and ignore me at school. They make school a terrible place for me, I wake up every morning sad to go to school. They made up a bunch of rumours about me and turned my friends against me. I’ve talked to teachers but no one is doing anything about this. They told me that because I don’t drink they can’t be friends with me. I don’t have any friends left. I sit alone at lunch and have no one to talk to. Usually I can deal with this but some nights (like tonight) it really gets to me and I just feel bad about myself. I feel like I don’t fit in with anybody because I’m not going out drinking every weekend. I am just not sure who to turn to to talk to, I just feel like I’m completely alone…

No One Believed Me

Posted by | Abuse | One Comment

My mom lives with her boyfriend, and she forced me to move in with him, and wouldn’t let me stay with my dad and his new wife. I have told her countless of times that I feel uncomfortable around him (In the beginning). He’s been looking at me strangely and makes fun of me all the time. My mom just laughs with his jokes. A week after my birthday her boyfriend and I were alone in my room while she was in theirs. He was helping me set up my computer even though I didn’t want him to. He got really close to me and I was about to say something, but then he molested me. I didn’t tell anyone for an entire month, not even my best friend because I was terrified of what he would do. Finally I told my dad, and he told my mom then we sat down to talk about it, and no one believed me. I was grounded for a week because they thought I was lying, and to make it worse, my dad forced me to apologize for accusing her boyfriend. My mom guilt trips me and says that I don’t want her to be happy and that’s why I’m doing this. He hasn’t molested me since, but I’m still scared. He still makes fun of me, and when I think back to the incident I always cry(about three times a week), I always lie to my mom that I’m not feeling well because she would get mad if she knew the real reason. I don’t want to live anymore, and my thoughts about this scare me.

Need Someone To Help Me

Posted by | Suicide, Uncategorized | One Comment

I feel horrible. Im depressed all the time. And all I want to do is cut. I think about suicide alot. Music doesn’t help anymore. I feel so alone. My boyfriend just left too, he made it seem like everything was ok even when things were falling apart. now I dont have him anymore and things are even worse. I skip school as much as possible and all I want to do is sleep. I get bullied alot, and my mom treats Me like crap. I just want to end it all. Theres so many things happening. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I need someone to talk to, I need someone to help me..

How Can I Help Her?

Posted by | Relationships | One Comment

Hi. My friend had a tendency to go for about a month of being pretty sad and down. Almost like depressed. Lately she really has been quieter and seems more sad and my other friend noticed cuts on her arms. I wanna help her without being pushy or scaring her. I think she’s just confused and feeling lonely because she pushes people away. How can I help her without making her feel intimidated or anything?

Can’t Stand To See My Parents Like This

Posted by | Family | One Comment

Hi, Im 15 years old and my parents have been fighting for a while now. Its nothing physical, just verbal. And my dad does things that makes no sense and makes my mom very upset. Like just an hour ago, my dad went through my moms purse and cut up her work credit cards. And he has changed the passwords to apple ID accounts for the family. He has hacked into and looked at her emails and texts. He used to just have a few beers here and there but he lost his job around 3 months ago and his drinking had become more prevalent. He never hurts anyone or anything but i cant stand to see my parents like this. Its not only affecting them, its affecting me and my two younger brothers as well. They dont want mom and dad to get divorced. And apparently this has been going on for years about something (i dont know what) but now its becoming a bigger problem. I dont know what to do, what i used to think was a happy marriage and family is quickly falling apart. I dont want to make a big deal out of it and try to control their marriage. But i need to tell someone, and i need advice.

No Idea What To Do

Posted by | Family | One Comment

​I feel silly for messaging you guys since I am going to be 18 so technically I should be smart enough to handle these things but I am currently going through a crisis I don’t know how to handle. Back story, my parents have had problems since day 1 of marriage and are most likely getting divorced. I’m happy about that because I think my dad is not the best person and never really wanted a husband/father role in life. The problem i am facing is that my mom told me if that is what eventually happens we will be moving with my grandparents or I can stay here. My mom and I are so close I can’t imagine not being in the same state as her, but my boyfriend is living here. My boyfriend and I are so serious. We just had our 3 year anniversary and have honestly talked about living together next year after he’s more adjusted to college and then eventually getting married. This is a huge decision, what if he’s who I’m supposed to be with the rest of my life? I also do not want to move because I really really hate where my grandparents live. It’s way too hot and way too boring. I eventually wanted to move to a big city and maybe go to beauty school there and start my life there. I have no idea what to do. I’m going to be 18 soon so if I wanted to go to the city and start my life I could. Or I could stay here and live with my boyfriend. Or I could go with my mom. I have no idea and it is absolutely killing me. I feel like each choice is the wrong choice.

I Live In Fear

Posted by | Bullying | One Comment

I’ve been bullied by the same people over and over. I’m going insane because of it. Im thinking about moving and going to another school, its gotten so bad. This girl in my grade has threatened to kill me, to beat me up, and i’m just tired of it…I’ve resorted to smoking and scratching my wrists. I need help……I got put in a hospital two years ago for self harming and standing up for myself…These people wont stop, and I’ve tried ignoring but it just keeps getting worse….. The girl who’s threatened to kill me lives right down the street from me, and has me afraid for my life…I cant even go outside and hang out with my friends because of her. Im afraid of leaving the apartment I live in, in fear of her wanting to kill and/or hurt me…I’ve gone to the principal and the police and they’ve done absolutely nothing….I need advise, help, anything! It would be much appreciated.

Scared I Will Lose Him

Posted by | Relationships | One Comment

I have been together for 4 months now. He recently started a job where it causes him to start at 1 in the afternoon & get off at midnight. Lately I have been really upset because I haven’t been talking to him as much & I really miss him. I really care about him & I am so scared that I am going to lose him. I have said it so many times & all he says is that it won’t happen because he loves me too much for that to happen. But the thought of it scares me. Any advice will work for me I am at a loss. He doesn’t treat me bad at all he is the best person that has ever came in to my life. He has done so much for me & I would be dumb to break up with him all because I am upset with not talking to him.

Afraid I’ll Lose My Scholarship

Posted by | School | One Comment

Ok this is a school thing. Short version is I haven’t been doing well grade-wise. It’s my first year of college and grades were never a problem before but now they are, and it’s really killing my self-worth. All the sites like this one say stuff like “you’re human, you can make mistakes, etc. etc.” but is it a mistake if I knew what would happen? I never do as much as I should and the classes just get harder and harder. Right now it looks like I’ve screwed everything up too bad to fix. I’m afraid I’ll lose my scholarships and then everything will be ruined forever.

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